My Family Rants

2 Year Olds!!!

Posted on: November 30, 2008

No wonder they call this stage “the terrible TWO’s“!

What happened to my adorable little angel who listened to everything I say, went to bed at 7pm and slept till 7am, ate everything I put in front of her, never fought with her brother etc………..it was like on her second birthday she was Possessed by a Devil!!

Yes I am exaggerating a little bit, but some days, man I just feel like she is a completely different child.

She won’t eat

Fights going to bed

Gets up too early (5:30??)

Fights with her brother

Everything is “MINE”

Everything else is “NO”

Tantrums, crying, whining, etc etc!!

So I did a little bit of analysis on this stage of development.  Poor darling has had a rough year.  We moved her into a big girl bed, in a new room.  Had to make room for the new baby on the way, right?

We took away her bottle.  Started potty training.  Brought home a new baby.

All of a sudden her role in the family as “the baby” was gone….and now she has to figure out who she is and how she fits into this world.

She is not only TWO, but also a middle child, and has a new sibling who took her place!

She doesn’t fit in as the oldest, my 6 year old son gets that role.

So she has to completely redefine who she is.  She is trying desperately to be a big girl, take care of her baby sister, play with all of the big kid toys my 6 year old has (thus starting the fights), do everything herself.  Then at the same time, she still needs mommy & daddy’s attention, cuddles, and to be treated, well, like a baby sometimes.

What a tough time for my two year old.

I’m trying now to implement some changes in our household I’m hoping will help her through her terrible twos.

1.  Giving her lots of ONE on ONE time….either with myself, daddy, or even her granny

2.  Giving her some big girl responsibilities/jobs, i.e. “doing the dishes” she LOVES this activity and it makes her feel very important

3.  Giving her cuddle time before bed or nap time, rocking her like a baby in her rocking chair

I don’t really know how to make her eat better, though we are trying just giving her as many choices & variety of healthy foods.  No WAY will she sit down and consider eating a meal right now.

As for sleeping, well probably time to take away a daytime nap right?

As for me, I think a much needed break away from her for a few hours will help me give HER a better side of me.

Some great resources I found:

http://www.childzilla.com/articles/23/terrible_twos.aspx

http://www.yoursocialworker.com/p-articles/terrible-twos.htm

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