My Family Rants

Went to Vegas for a few days; half business half pleasure 🙂

It was my first time there, oh man what a great time!

vegas-020 It was fun to see “old” Vegas, as well as the new parts.  Way too much to see and do in just 3 days.

I missed the kids while I was away, but it was nice to get a break as well.  I think small breaks are healthy for everyone.  For me anyways, it makes me appreciate them that much more when I come home!  I think allowing myself some grownup times makes me a better mom.

Some highlights of my trip: partying at Lavo nightclub, eating at Tao, shopping!!!

We stayed at the Gold Coast, a smaller hotel, but for $35/night can you really go wrong?  It was perfect, a very relaxed atmosphere, and we could just grab a cab to the strip…….or walk across the street to the Palms.

Happy to be home and back with the kids, I would definately go to vegas again!

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How is your time allocated?  Try this little test:

How many Hours do you spend doing the following (in an average day):   my answers are in pink

Childcare on average 8 hours (3morn, 5 evening)

Housework, running the household, making meals, laundry etc etc 4 hours

Work 8.0 hours

Eating, Personal Hygiene 2 hours

Sleep 8 hours

Free time HAHAHAHA

Well how is this possible, the total is 30 hours, and that does not include free time??  As you can see I mega multi task, so I am often working while watching the children, or doing housework while watching the children, as I’m sure most mothers do.

I’m reading this book: “The Secret of Happy Children” by Steve Biddulph

Not far into it yet, but it already has hooked me.  The first part of the book talks about how the things that we, as parents, say everyday to our kids are programming them consiously and sub-consiously, i.e. hypnotizing.

I am obviously doing absolutely everything wrong, and am probably on the road to putting my children in therapy for the rest of their lives (according to the book anyways)

For example, if you tell your child on a regular basis “you are such an idiot”, that gets planted into their minds and will affect their self esteem for the rest of their lives.  Even if you are saying it just in a “kidding” sort of way.

Here are some of the things you should NOT say to your child:

“Hey, elephant ears!  Dinner’s ready”

“You’re as bad as your father!”

“Why can’t you be sweet and good like your baby brother?”

“You hit him again and I’ll KILL you!!”

“She’s very shy I don’t know what’ll become of her”   (telling other people when child is in ear shot)

“He sure BELTED her, He’s a real little tiger”

and my personal favorite:

“GOD, you exhaust me!  I’m so sick I could just lie down and die”

orla-7-months

Another month and she keeps changing so quickly!  I think she is going to be crawling soon, she almost gets into position from sitting.  I don’t think I’m ready for her to be mobile yet, but can’t explain that to her!

I’ve been a little slower getting her on solid foods.  She is on all the veggies, most fruits, cereal, and just introduced chicken and turkey.  I’m waiting to introduce Wheat because she had such a reaction to dairy, I thought I’d wait a few more weeks.  So I’ve also not tried any finger foods.  Boy I’m really behind!

Info on Month Seven development from Canadian Parents

Here is the same info from i-am-pregnant.com

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I hope it is not too late to make some resolutions for the new year, 2009!

Here they are;

Travel More

starting with my trip to Vegas in a week, I need to get over my damn fear of flying and start living a little bit!

Eat Better

I already eat pretty good, I am forced to stay away from fried food, eggs, and eat very little red meat or other food high  in fat (due to my bodies lack of a gallbladder).  I would however like to eat more fruits & vegetables, and drink more water.  I would like to try & get my kids to eat better too.

Live Greener

I would like to be more environmentally friendly in 2009.  My goals are to use re-useable shopping bags for groceries, buy longer lasting light bulbs, and start using our composting program again.  I’m a little stuck on how to drink more water, while being good to the environment since bottled watter is so cheap and convenient.

Why is it that kids fight?  Brother & Sister constantly fighting and driving their parents crazy!  (that means me)

Sometimes I just don’t know how to cope with the constants battles.  Everything one child is doing the other wants to do too. Play with the same toy, sit on the same chair or spot on the couch, eat the same thing.  They fight fight fight all the time!

Am I doing something wrong?

I try to encourage my 6 year old to leave the room, and “remove himself from the situation” which these days seems to be always caused by my 2 year old.  But if he plays into the behaviour, it becomes a full blown royal rumble!

Here is some great advice on the topic from Investinkids.ca

  • Avoid becoming involved in every argument between siblings. Try not to become a constant referee and hover over your children’s play. However, ensure that no child is constantly being teased, put down or physically hurt by a sibling.

  • Avoid comparing siblings. In particular, try not to say that one child is better in some way than the other. Do not label children (for example, “the smart one” or “the shy one”). These comparisons not only set up rivalries, but can also become self-fulfilling prophecies.

  • Develop a general “no violence” rule in your home, which also applies to sibling fights. Your children will soon learn that hurting a sibling is not tolerated!

  • Don’t expect sibling rivalry only after a baby is born. It often doesn’t occur until the new baby is about six months old, awake for much of the day and more of a little person.

  • Understand that it won’t always be possible to give everything equally, and explain to your children that sometimes it will be their turn to get something and sometimes it won’t. Being fair to each of your children and meeting their needs, does not mean everything is always equal.

  • Try to have one-on-one time with each child individually, as it makes a child feel very special to be the only one around sometimes.

  • When fighting does occur, often it is best to separate the children. However, if you are feeling up to it and the fighting hasn’t escalated too much, it can be a great opportunity to teach children about conflict resolution and problem-solving. You can do this by asking each child for his point of view of what happened, and then asking for ideas on how to resolve the situation. Although the children may suggest some crazy solutions, you will be surprised how they will also suggest some innovative ones.

  • Look carefully at how you deal with disagreements with your partner and your children when one arises. Do you solve the problem heatedly, yet peacefully, swearing and walking out, hitting, ignoring (coming to no conclusion) or taking deep breaths and trying to talk it out? This gives children a pattern to follow.

  • When they fight, don’t take sides, especially if you weren’t there to see exactly what happened. Have them spend a few minutes away from each other so they can calm down, then ask them to return so you can all talk about it together.

  • Encourage your children to talk about their feelings with each other and to try to settle their differences with words, not actions. Explain how important it is to listen to each other.

  • Avoid taking on the job of referee – kids have to learn to resolve disagreements themselves, more and more as they get older. When you feel your children are ready, stay close by in case they need you, but tell them that you think they can work out the disagreement on their own.

  • Remember that some fighting is fun for children, and there is no reason for you to intervene at those times.