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Going to get the 6 year old and the 3 year old up on Ski’s this week for the first time.  Well my daughter is actually only 2 years and 11 months old, but they are making an exception to enrol her in the age 3-5 junior kids camp.  This includes the ski rentals, lift pass, and 2 hours of time with a private instructor.

We are going to Blue Mountain, and staying in a chalet rented from Blue Chalets.  The mother in law is joining us and a few other family members.  Might as well get some help if I can right?

It is of course the last full week of skiing here in Ontario, and it will be very springlike skiing conditions.  I hope the kids enjoy it, because their dad loves to ski!  And Snowboard.  Me; okay not so much.  I did ski in high school, but I had a wicked wipe out in Vermont, and that kind of freaked me out for life.

I much prefer the comfort of the ski lodge with a nice cup of hot chocolate (with whip cream of course), or a nice glass of Pinot Grigio depending on the time of day.

9 months old and she is crawling across the floor at lightning speed, but she really enjoys pulling herself up on every piece of furniture within reach and creeping around on her feet. Could she possibly start walking this young??

I’m reading this book: “The Secret of Happy Children” by Steve Biddulph

Not far into it yet, but it already has hooked me.  The first part of the book talks about how the things that we, as parents, say everyday to our kids are programming them consiously and sub-consiously, i.e. hypnotizing.

I am obviously doing absolutely everything wrong, and am probably on the road to putting my children in therapy for the rest of their lives (according to the book anyways)

For example, if you tell your child on a regular basis “you are such an idiot”, that gets planted into their minds and will affect their self esteem for the rest of their lives.  Even if you are saying it just in a “kidding” sort of way.

Here are some of the things you should NOT say to your child:

“Hey, elephant ears!  Dinner’s ready”

“You’re as bad as your father!”

“Why can’t you be sweet and good like your baby brother?”

“You hit him again and I’ll KILL you!!”

“She’s very shy I don’t know what’ll become of her”   (telling other people when child is in ear shot)

“He sure BELTED her, He’s a real little tiger”

and my personal favorite:

“GOD, you exhaust me!  I’m so sick I could just lie down and die”

What the hell am I talking about right?

This is one of the tools that my family counselor has taught me to use when dealing with people; my husband, my employees, even my kids….and actually even myself.

Each and every person is EITHER Right Brained, or Left Brained.  I for SURE am left brained, and my husband for SURE is Right brained.  I am very logical, organized, everything in my life revolves around facts & numbers.  My husband is a dreamer, he is always coming up with fabulous ideas, he is a risk taker, an adventurer.

LEFT BRAIN FUNCTIONS
uses logic
detail oriented
facts rule
words and language
present and past
math and science
can comprehend
knowing
acknowledges
order/pattern perception
knows object name
reality based
forms strategies
practical
safe

RIGHT BRAIN FUNCTIONS
uses feeling
“big picture” oriented
imagination rules
symbols and images
present and future
philosophy & religion
can “get it” (i.e. meaning)
believes
appreciates
spatial perception
knows object function
fantasy based
presents possibilities
impetuous
risk taking

So I apply this theory to my children, are they right brained or left brained?  My son for sure is left brained; he excels in math, reading, he is very academic, very detailed, very logical.  My daughter for sure (even at age 2 I can tell) is right brained; she loves to colour & draw, but doesn’t not for very long, she always has many things on the go.  She is very musical, definately a risk taker, loves pretending.

Identifying a person as left brained vs right brained helps me to understand how they look at things, and helps me deal better with that person.  Instead of getting frustrated with my husbands constant “hey I’ve got a great idea” (at least 10 times a day), I center him, write down the ideas, help to be the one to get the details organized so that idea might actually take shape into a viable business idea.

I use this in business when dealing with employees.  If an employee is left brained, they are probably not a good fit for a graphic designs type job.  But they would be excellent in accounting!

More information from Wikipedia:

Left hemisphere functions Right hemisphere functions
analytical holistic
verbal prosodic
logical intuitive
numerical computation (exact calculation, numerical comparison, estimation)
left hemisphere only: direct fact retrieval[5][6]
numerical computation (approximate calculation, numerical comparison, estimation)[5][6]
language: grammar/vocabulary, literal[7] language: intonation/accentuation, prosody, pragmatic, contextual[7]

First of all, I am reminded at Christmas how blessed I am.  I have 3 healthy, happy children.  I have food on the table, and enough money to give my children toys under the tree, and a roof over their head at Christmas.  I realize that many do not have these blessings.  So at Christmas, I am grateful.

We had a wonderful Christmas!  It was chaotic from start to finish, and my house is completely TRASHED, but it was all worth it!

We got to visit with friends & family.  Eat, Drink & be Merry.  It was wonderful!

My hubby knows the power of the beautiful little blue boxes, and he got me a few items of jewelry from Swarovfski

The kids got spoiled, mostly by their grandparents, not me :)!  Now I’ll need to sort through their playroom and get a few older toys ready to go to the Salvation Army. That is our local charity of choice, as they make sure items go to familys in our area in need. I also believe this serves a lesson to our children (at least I hope it does) that they should be greatful for each and every toy they have, because there are many children without.

The BIG gift / surprise for me is coming today, a new sectional sofa for our odd-shaped living room.  My husband and MIL conspired on this one together, I can’t wait to see it!

I hope everyone else had a wonderful Christmas too!  Guess I’ll be spending the next week or so cleaning up!